EVERY HUSBAND SHOULD READ THIS

♥ Love her.. when she sips on your coffee or tea. She only wants to make sure it tastes just right for you.

♥ Love her.. when she "pushes" you to pray. She wants to be with you in Jannah (Paradise).

♥ Love her.. when she asks you to play with the kids. She did not "make" them on her own.

♥ Love her.. when she is jealous. Out of all the men she can have, she choose you.

♥ Love her.. when she has annoying little habits that drives you nuts. You have them too.

♥ Love her.. when her cooking is bad. She tries.

♥ Love her.. when she looks dishevelled in the morning. She always grooms herself up again.

♥ Love her.. when she asks to help with the kids homework. She only wants you to be part of the home.

♥ Love her.. when she asks if she looks fat. Your opinion counts, so tell her she's beautiful.

♥ Love her…when she looks beautiful. She's yours so appreciate her.

♥ Love her...when she spends hours to get ready. She only wants to look her best for you.

♥ Love her.. when she buys you gifts you don't like. Smile and tell her it's what you've always wanted.

♥ Love her.. when she has developed a bad habit. You have many more and with wisdom and politeness you have all the time to help her change.

♥ Love her.. when she cries for absolutely nothing. Don't ask, tell her its going to be okay.

♥ Love her.. when whatever you do is not pleasing. It happens and will pass.

♥ Love her.. when she stains your clothes. You needed a new thobe (kurta) anyway.

♥ Love her.. when she tells you how to drive. She only wants you to be safe.

♥ Love her.. when she argues. She only wants to make things right for both.

♥ Love her.. she is yours. You don't need any other special reason !!

All this forms part of a Woman's Character. Women are part of your life and should be treated as the Queen.

Treat the women well..

(Source)

Notes to Danish~~

He’s the big brother now. Because of that, I always assume that Danish will be the one yang akan jaga adik dia. I always get him involved when it comes to taking care of his baby sister, I asked for his help a lot – getting clean diapers, wet tissue, throw dirty diapers in the dustbin, put dirty clothes in the laundry basket etc. More than often, he’ll lend his hand, walaupun kengkadang tu, it’ll take like 5 minutes and 2-3 items before I received new clean diapers. OR maybe…. I’ll get it fast, but instead of 1 piece, I get a whole bag of diapers. Sudahnya, jadi kerja pula untuk mama mengemas. But just so you know, I did appreciate every little things that you do for your baby sister, although in between, I become the angry bird momma!!

There was one time, when I was still sleeping, I overheard Danish playing with his baby sister. Worried that Danish-si-muka-legend-hati-kiut would go beyond excitement and hurt her, I take a glance towards them. I saw Danish touched his sister forehead affectionately and called her ‘dedek’ – a name given by him himself, it was supposed to be ‘adik’ by the way. He even gave her his car toy and forced asked her to play with it. I was so touched with what I saw. I know that he loves his sister dearly. He’s gentle, attentive and loving toward her. And furthermore, what touches me, he is willing to share his toys with her. Previously when I was still pregnant, I was worried that Danish will be jealous over his baby sister. I was once told that bigger sibling will usually hit their baby sibling out of jealousy. But it’s not the case with Danish. He only seems ‘jealous’ when he ask me for something, or need my attention when I was feeding her. Yet, it was only for a moment, after his needs is attended, he’ll no longer bother if I were to continue hold/feed his baby sister. Sometimes, I just pick him up and sit him together with his baby sister while I feed her. And he did not bother at all to ‘share’ me with her.

However, recently I felt guilt towards him. Since I was busy taking care his baby sister, Danish was always left alone. I expect him to be independent as I presume and somehow I set my mind to believe that he is able to take care of himself and no longer needs much of our attention. Sometimes, he’ll be sitting at the floor watching television by himself, while some other times he’ll be playing with his car also by himself, usually he’ll felt asleep afterwards. When come to think of it, it touched my heart, I failed to remember that he’s just two years old. He just a little kids who still need his parents, who need to be console when the astro went interrupted during bad weather, he actually afraid of this, who would wail when he could not pull his pants down, who would ask for ‘momom’ when he gets hungry, who would laugh and straight away run to the bed to lie down when he saw his ‘cucu’ (susu), who would get angry if his crane toy could not lift his toy car - which is bigger than the crane, etc. Anyhow, all in all, HE. STILL. NEED. US-his parents., to help him to grow up.

To Danish;

Mama wanted you to know that every little thing that I do, is based on my love towards you. I’m trying hard, very-very-very hard, to be a good mother to you and your little sister though I know at times I feel like I failed doing it. I’m only human which is still learning, and I’m slowly picking up. Motherhood isn’t always easy, especially to a career woman like me. If, and only if, I get mad over things, I wanted you to know that it wasn’t that I don’t love you, but……. it was indeed because I love you. Hmm, maybe someday, some other days, when you’re parents yourself, you’ll eventually understand. And I really hope that you’ll understand that……. I love you with all my hearts.

I love my sista!!

And it shows!!

Everytime i wanted to take picture of Delisya, Danish will usually jadi mat interframe. And he will usually gave his saya-sayang-adik pose. Memang undeniably sayang punya la.

Dari siang..

..sampai ke malam..

..walau menangis..

abang tetap sayang adik..

Blog Revamp!!

Finally!!

I've changed my layout after contemplating to change for one months. Rasa sejuk mata memandang layout baru ni. Though, i'm not a pinkish fan actually. Tapi better la kalau nak compare dengan previous layout which i personally think more like gangster punya website with its black colour, small font, serabut with so many widgets, so similar to typical gangster car - black colour, dark tinted, loud exhaust noise, etc.

So, i say goodbye to gangster lookalike layout, no heart feeling, yeah?! You've done a good job there for the whole 2 years with Daintily Spoken. Thank you for serving me all these years!!

Update: Okay, now i have duplicate blog post and i do not know how to remove it!! *sigh. And i know that my blog just look like rumah-baru-pindah-belum-sempat-kemas, everywhere got pile of boxes. But just bear with me, okay.

The Moms Avenue Return

Okay, it was not Danish or my little Delisya to be blame solely for my lack of time during this confinement period. Sorry dear. ;) I had my own project or to be exact, i had revive my little business that was loooOOong abandon - momsavenue.blogspot.com. This is part of my dream, to be a businesswoman, part time or full time, only time will tell. So, please do buy, support or at least visit us yeah!!

I'm in the midst of updating the sale items in the blog. So for the time being, there was only few item sold. However, you can already start your shopping now as some of the item was given on promotion price.

Arrival of my little Delisya Zahira - Part II

I wish i could do a blog marathon since i have so many things to share with the world. But with this very limited time i have, i'll just update with whatever story i can. I'll try to make this as fast as i could so that i can catch beauty sleep of mine. Bear in mind, i'm not like other mommy during confinement, at least that what i believe. I didn't get to sleep that much, read tak bleh nak tidur siang, with 2 years old toddler actively running the house down.

Ok, back to my birth story. I didn't feel relieve to be sent home. In fact, i was praying hard for me to feel contraction or at least some addition to my opening. But none. Still stuck at 3cm. So, i just give up to the idea sending me home.

I was home on 10th December 2011 around 3pm. Not long after i reached home, i started to feel the contraction. But i just ignore it, assuming it was just a mild one. Nothing near to labour.

0300hr, 11th December 2011, i couldn't really sleep. The contraction starting to grow stronger, but still bearable. It still at 2 hours apart. Hubby started to be weary. He keep insisting to send me to the hospital, takut terberanak di rumah. He's more panicked than i am. But i reject the idea.

2000hr, 11th December 2011. I feel stronger and more consistent contraction which appearing at 1 hours interval, which also still bearable as I can still ate my dinner peacefully and having conversation with my family over dinner. Still refusing to go to the hospital. I wanted to wait for the contraction to become more frequent and longer before going to the hospital, didn't want the same thing happening again. Penat wehh, packing unpacking barang ke hospital ni.

At first i tought i was going to give birth exactly on my EDD, 13th December 2011. But somehow, near to midnight, i decided to go to the hospital. Not because of my contraction is getting more stronger, still at the same level as before, but because i'm thinking if suddenly i were to give birth at wee hour, there's nobody to look after Danish and i didn't want to disturb my parents sleep. So, i better go during my father is still wide awake. However, when we sent Danish to my father, he cried his lung out as if he knows that we're going to left him at home. Suddenly I feel sad leaving Danish afraid that i might not see him again, well you know the feeling of giving birth, macam mau tercabut nyawa ja.

At the hospital, i was inspected and i was at 5cm opening!! The Doctor question me when do i started to feel the contraction, and asked me, why didn't i go to the hospital earlier. I was like, Helllloooo!! You guys are the one who sent me home, so why question!!

I was panicking when the Doctor inform me that he wanted to 'break my waterbag'. Suddenly i felt like i was not ready at all to give birth. I started to request absurd things, thinking that i could buy some time.

Me: Doktor, berapa lama lagi saya mau beranak ni, boleh ka saya makan ubat saya dulu, belum lagi saya makan hari ni.

Nurse: Tidak payah la kau makan tu, tiada effect pun sama HB kau, mau beranak sudah ni.

I then requested to go to the toilet. Jangan la kau kencing di sini, terberanak nanti kau. Kencing di labour room la dekat sikit dengan tandas.

Okayy. So I guess no more excuses could be given. I just accept the fact that this is it, it's time for my baby to see the world. So I was transferred to the labour room without any preparation. My baby clothes was still with hubby who's trying to find a parking spot.

Luckily, hubby manage to park the car and meet me outside the PAC room in time or else he won't be there to accompany me inside the labour room and my baby wouldn't have any clothes to wear!!

0100hr, 11th December 2011, i was again inspected and the Doctor inform me that i am expected to give birth around 0400hr - 0430hr. Three and a half hour to go, and i can't endure the pain any longer. The pain is unbearable compare to my last pregnancy. Previously, during my first labour, i can still doze off to sleep while in the labour room waiting to give birth, though earlier i vommitted twice.

In fact, i rang the Doctor thrice, thinking that i was about to give birth, and I even doing some 'pushing' myself, when the contraction is strong. At last, i was given Entonox as a pain relief, when i continuously complaining on the pain. It was supposed to be inhale only when in pain, but i didn't feel the effectiveness so i just inhale throughout the labour. And my husband is holding the mouthpiece for me for that 2 hours stretch. Thanks hubby for being there for me. I love you.. :) Halfway using the Entonox, i feel little light-headed. I can easily dozed off and during my so-called sleep, I started to feel as if i was vacationing at the beach, seriously!! I still feel the pain, though. But only a mild one.

At around 3-ish, the Doctor came in again to inspect me... and.. i was ready to give birth!! I don't know how many cm already, but she can feel the baby head.

0348hr, 11th December 2011, my long awaited princess has born. I am blessed to gave birth to a wonderful daughter and now having a pair, a wonderful boy and a beautiful girl. Apart from all the difficulty, it was indeed a wonderful experience to me.

Delisya Zahira - 2 hours old.

Delisya Zahira - 1 week old

Arrival of my little Delisya Zahira..

Hahaha...

It's s00oo typical me!!

Janji bagai nak update blog tapi ke sudahnya, satu habuk pun tarak.. Ok, what excuse for me to give this time? Before, i was busy with work, later pregnant dilemma and now of course after pregnant, busy berpantang with baby la kan.. ;)

Yupp.. now i'm halfway through my confinement period. To be exact, i'm on my 23rd days and Delisya is 23 days old now. Recalling back to the day i gave birth to Delisya, it was a whole new experience for me, apart from the fact that this is my second child, sepatutnya sudah PRO la kan.

My EDD was supposed to be on 13th December 2011, but i'm experiencing the cramping way earlier. That's why i strongly believe i'll give birth one or two weeks early. So, to avoid chaos giving birth at the office or on the way to the hospital from office, my office is around 40 minutes drive to the hospital, i decided to take leave early before my EDD, itu pun setelah bertungkus-lumus menyiapkan kerja opis yang masih ada lagi yang belum siap lagi sehingga kini, believe it or not, i bring my office work so that i can do during my confinement.

Tapi, macam tau-tau je kan, the day i'm on leave, that very day juga la darah keluar. That was on 8th of December, 5 days before my EDD. It was during my shower that i notice some spot on my panty. I show it to hubby trying to get some confirmation, and he said, nak beranak dah tu.

Not wanting to stay long at the hospital, i take my own sweet time to pack my things, get my son ready to nursery and if it's not because mom stopping me, i even wanted to go to office to settle few thing first before admitting myself to the hospital. So there i go, going to the hospital as if i'm going for a vacation, cool and relax.

During this time, i don't feel any contraction at all except for that menstrual-like-cramp, still no expert in recognizing real contraction. When i was inspected, the doctor almost sent me home, since i didn't feel any contraction at all. But after doing VE procedure, i was 3cm opening which only 1cm left into active phase of labour. However, after three days makan-tidur-makan-tidur activities at the hospital, no wonder la lambat sakit, there was still no sign of me giving birth, no contraction, only spot. Makcik-makcik nurse even wonder why i still didn't experience any contraction. I was told, usually moms will start to feel contraction at 2cm opening. Well every pregnancy is unique. I even remember the doctor said, 'kamu sangat relax, kalau orang sakit bersalin, menangis saja tidak'. Hence due to that, i was sent home...

...will continue later, need my sleep now.. ;)